That voice in my head again!
We’ve all heard that voice self-doubt that taunts you when you set a goal, beats you down at your lowest times, and criticizes you when life gets difficult.
“You can’t do that!”
“You’re going to fail, just like the last time…”
“You’re not good enough, and you’ll never be. Yeah, just go a head and quit now!”
You know you shouldn’t listen, but some how that self-doubt finds it’s way in, and once it does you feel crushed under it’s weight.
Self-doubt devours confidence, strips away logical thinking, blocks reason, and steals all the happiness from your heart.
Self-doubt leaves you frozen, full of fear, and insecure.
You try hard to cover it up or push it away, but inside underneath that thin veneer of positivity your heart sinks into a heavy darkness.
It may seem like there is no way out, but there is!
Awareness is the first step to free your self of self-doubt.
When you hear yourself saying, “I can’t,” or, “I don’t know,” or, “What if,” it’s time to pay attention.
Instead of telling yourself, “I can’t do X,” say, “I can’t do X yet. But I’m working on it.” and take a moment to really see that you are truly working on it.
Or if you find yourself wondering, “What if I fail?” you can respond by saying, “Then I’ll try again.” Give yourself a moment to feel in your heart that you will.
Doing this will transform a negative situation into an opportunity for growth. In the end, it’s about giving yourself a chance.
Stop listening to dream killers.
Dream killers will tell you it’s impossible, shoot down your ideas, and leave you in a state of hopelessness and despair.
Dream killers feed your self-doubt like a hungry lion.
Don’t let them. Feel you feet on the ground and stay strongly my friend. Build a wall of positivity,anddon’t let them dump all their self-doubt on you.
Surround yourself with supportive and passionate people. Sometimes you just need a friend, teacher, or mentor, who can shine some light into your darkest fears and doubts.
Recall your successes.
This one is tough. When you’re down, it is easier to sink into deeper despair then recall any past successes, but you CAN find that confidence again.
I suggest you put down in words everything good, successful, and uplifting in your life. Use a piece of paper, a journal, a blank document, whatever your style of writing is just get it written down.
Everything counts whether big or small, just get it written down and read it regularly!
Allow yourself to feel in your body what those successes felt like. Go ahead, indulge!
If you just can’t find it within yourself, seek some assistance. Ask someone you trust to tell you great things they think you’ve done.
Keep the list. If you ever get lost in self-doubt dig up that list and read it again.
Be your own Champion and let go of fear of failure. .
Be your best friend. Cheer yourself on, and if some negative self-talk comes up, ask yourself if you would say this to someone you cared about.
Be kind to yourself and and remember that you are capable, worthy, and deserving. You are good enough.
Don’t look at failure as bad. Take that fear and throw it in the garbage.
You gotta fail in order to find the best possible outcome, and often it’s better than you could have ever imagined.
That’s the beauty of following and trusting your heart. You don’t know where it’s gonna take you, but it’s gonna be awesome.
Self-doubt may keep creeping back in. Like every time you fall out of your comfort zone, or strive to do something the is meaningful and great.
Remember your doubts are only thoughts they are not real. They manifest as feelings attached to beliefs and stories you’ve been telling yourself of not being good enough.
Self-doubt is not your future, and most certainly not who you are.
Sure, something may go wrong. You may fail. That’s part and parcel with growth.
Remember a how an infant learns to walk.
An infant will fall 17 times per hour, but they never doubt their ability to walk…. no matter how many times they had to get up again.
For a brighter world,
Kimberly Sotelo a being who knows she is not her name.